Is cybersex cheating or not? - To hear from people who have been cybercheated

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[1HeartJust4u]

:angry: It most certainly is cheating.  Here is how I look at it..... anytime that you have a sexual encounter, whether on the computer, phone, or in person....it is cheating.  You may have sexual thoughts, or intimate thoughts....which is fine.  It's when you act on those thoughts or impulses that makes it cheating.  Another way to think of it....if your partner knew what you were doing, would he/she be hurt?  angry? disappointed?  Then yes....it's cheating.

[down in mo.]

I would also like to comment on this topic. I dont feel that it is cheating. How many times have you made love with your   partner and think of someone else? I feel that if your only thinking of it in your mind then its not cheating per say. I am a 50year old male. I have been married for 28 years to the same women, and having cyber sex only makes me hotter for my wife. Thank you for your time

[michelle@hotmail.com]

I would also like to comment on this topic. I dont feel that it is cheating. How many times have you made love with your   partner and think of someone else? I feel that if your only thinking of it in your mind then its not cheating per say. I am a 50year old male. I have been married for 28 years to the same women, and having cyber sex only makes me hotter for my wife. Thank you for your time

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[spog]

It most certainly is cheating and is devastating to the partner of the cheater. I married a man who was on the computer nonstop and would turn off the computer before the honey of the moment was done talking to him. I would turn on the computer to check my mail and their messages would pop up. I was able to talk to some of these women and let them know what was going on. Most of them were unaware of this man being a pathological liar and promptly told him where to go! I would get up at 3 or 4 in the morning to find him on the computer in the office. He would promptly click off the IM screen when he heard me moving around and just be browsing on a website when I came into the office. I even found several pictures of a woman who had taken pictures of her private areas and sent to him! This was definitely not all of the sneaky things he did. After two years of this behavior I finally kicked him to the curb and threw the computer out after him! about two months after our divorce was final I was sitting watching tv one night and the phone rang. It was a woman asking if I knew a man by my husbands name. I started to laugh and said that I had been married to him! She told me that he had claimed to have been married only once to his highschool sweetheart (me) and she had died of breast cancer! Well I am alive and well and was not his high school sweetheart and was his third wife not his first! He told her that he had no family (he has two sisters and a brother). He also told her that he was the co owner of a big company in Wisconsin here instead of just an employee. The lies he told her went on and on. We communicated for awhile online and on the phone and then all communication stopped! I suspect that she went back to him even though she knew that he had lied about all the most important things in a persons life, family, personal relationships and career! If she did end up with him I hope she is doing well!

[L0rdallovre]

Why do peaople do this? Troll for sex in chat rooms? Cybersex. What a bunch of losers! Go out and live a real life!

[Anonymous]

YUP

I have done it.   I have had it done to me.

its cheating.  either way.  

http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com

[UbberFan]

To me it's most definately cheating
I've been talking to a gal on yahoo, she's from Windsor, Ont. for about 2 yrs, now. 
I've always kinda suspected in the back of my head that she was a tease.
She'd say things to string me along, and I was foolish enough to fall for it.

anyways, I've seen her online talking to many other guys, the very same way she talks to me, and I didn't think at first it would bother me, however, I've found if they can't be honest on the net, how can you expect them to be honest to your face.

I think also for alot of people its takes on a mysterious, role playing kinda thing, they're being something they don't feel they really are, on the net they're being who they wanna be, a Tease, Slut, Player, etc.
Perhaps if they shared these feelings with their partner, they might be pleasantly surprised to find out that the partner would be very appreciative of that kind of role playing.

[Kaprikorn73]

Unfortunately for some, the internet means no holds barred.  You can be anyone you want to be online and most of the time ,not have to deal with anyone in "real" life.  Believe me this comes from experience. Before I met my last girlfriend, I was in a local chatroom , I never met so many different women in my life. I played the role as the nice guy and became friends with alot of them. Looking back at that time in my life, I was a cyber male slut.And most of them thought I was only chattin with them.I wouldn't consider it cheating, until it becomes "real", until then it's just fantasy..Play the role along with her, otherwise you're due for a big let down. There's probably someone who lives closer to her and is seeing the "real" side of her, and he's the one being cheated on....Until you actually meet this person and "stake a claim" sort of speaking, it's open season. it's sad but true....there's alot of chatrooms on the net and you're gonna find this in all of them. Good luck with your situation.